Blog: Letting Go
Dec 7, 2021
Jumping right into it, I can’t believe it’s the end of the year! I feel like we say this every year. I know time passes the same every single day, but it’s kinda like procrastinating. When you’re rushing to meet a deadline, you’re like uhh where did the time go??
I’m sure many of you have been reflecting or will be reflecting on what 2021 meant to you and then looking forward to starting anew in 2022. As far as great life lessons that 2021 has taught me, letting go and shedding old parts of me has been both a struggle and the release that I’ve been waiting for.
Being in any transitional period, especially as you’re healing, isn’t easy. There are people, limited beliefs, things that kept you safe and comfortable, and situations that you’re not quite ready to say goodbye to yet. Even if they were toxic or just unhealthy. I mean, eating junk food can be comforting! But if that becomes your daily habit and you’re in the process of living healthier, then slowly weaning yourself off junk food can be a struggle. Like you know it’s better for you, but there is an inner resistance.
Often times working with clients, I deeply resonate with those conflicting feelings. Your head is telling you one thing and your soul may be saying something else. A big part of working through that conflict is getting clarity as to why each of those two parts of you may be holding on or afraid to let go.
Spoiler alert: It’s usually some story you told yourself a long time ago to protect a fear or insecurity.
This year has been tough on me to fully let go of some unhealthy relationships. And when I say let go, it doesn’t have to be BYE SEE YOU NEVER! Even in creating some distance or defining boundaries, it can feel like you’re betraying the original relationship in the first place. But as I gave myself permission to continue listening to myself and trusting why I feel the way that I do in the relationship, I know I’m giving myself the space to heal parts of me that actually have been contributing to me projecting those pains unconsciously onto others.
That came in the form of people pleasing, built up resentment, feeling guilty to say no, defaulting to me lowering my self worth, and putting myself last in line when it comes to my needs. This is a big part of the process of taking responsibility for yourself and your self development journey as an evolving adult. If you don’t know why you are the way that you are and why you do or say hurtful things to others, then for sure the people in your life won’t know as well.
It’s ok to take your time throughout any transitional period. And reaching out to talk (whether to a friend or a professional) can help tremendously.
And that’s the thought of today.